When you feel nervous, your body tells you to either “fight” or “run away” – not “think”. Hence, when you are nursing this particular emotion, the chances of you faltering in a particular endeavour can increase because in many cases, your ability to come up with a sound solution can often be overwhelmed by an irrational fear of the question “what if?”.
Indeed, anxiety can bring no good in any intimate relationship – more so, in bed. So, if you are about to get frisky with your husband or wife (or perhaps, your boyfriend or girlfriend) on a cold, wintry morning and you allow nervousness to knock on your bedroom’s door – it will be easy to forget about enjoying the romantic moment you have with your partner as you will be bombarded with the following questions.
For women: Will he think my genitals are ugly? Will he like feeling my breasts? Will he say that they are too flat or floppy?
Will sex feel painful for me?
What if I cannot achieve orgasm?
Will I suffer from premature ejaculation? Will the size of my member make her laugh or faint? Will size matter to her? Will my erection hold out long enough?
As funny as some of these questions may seem – fearing what might happen once your primal urges get the better of you are reasonable. Of course, with you and your partner putting yourselves into a lot of emotional and physical risks, the consequences that you both face is not something to belittle. But, while it is okay to exercise rationality in a moment that requires more moaning and less debating, feeling jittery about your present encounter has its repercussions. Here are some of them:
Have difficulty relaxing and enjoying the passionate encounter. Make the vagina tighten up (which makes intercourse painful). Increases the difficulty of achieving climax.
Experience premature ejaculation. Have a hard time remaining “stiff”. Make erections difficult to achieve.
Indeed, where sex is concerned – anxiety should have nothing to do with it. So, if you want to please your partner: dump your cares away, have those condoms (or Femidoms) ready, and just revel in the passionate moment.
And to further help you with handling sexual anxieties – here are some tips from love doctors:
#1 Communicate. Express your concerns to your partner so both parties can work out a way to be comfortable about the deed.
#2 Live healthy. Being fit is the only ticket for you to become a certified sex machine. And yes, machines don’t drink or smoke.
#3 Touch. Do not pour all your attention to making your partner achieve orgasm – you got a whole body to please.
#4 Drink Kava-Kava. This natural juice can produce euphoria and make you relaxed enough to enjoy doing some hanky-panky with your partner.